Don’t Expect Frum People to be Angels Either. You won’t stop reading poetry just because half of your favorite poets were alcoholics. You wouldn’t drop out of med school if you found out too many doctors are egoists. So don’t abandon Yiddishkeit when you meet frum(orthodox) creeps. Yes I regretfully inform you they exist. You’ll discover every variety of horrendous human behavior somewhere in the frum world, and you’ll find a few ordinary flaws in everyone. You won’t get perfection or utopia anywhere. You won’t even get spirituality and common decency every single place you find a mezuzah. Torah is only a guideline. It’s not an all-powerful fully guaranteed bleach.
Friedman the Tutor, “How to Get Deeper into Torah, Without Going off the Deep End” (via girloverhere)
I want to point out that poetry isn’t supposed to effect alcohol consumption, and practicing medicine isn’t supposed to effect one’s egotism - but being orthodox is supposed to make someone not be a dick.
And it’s one thing to talk about a joe-shmoe (or ploni almoni) jew who is a jerk, but it’s a whole nother thing to talk about the rabbis - the leaders of this ‘moral’ system - who sometimes display horrific behavior.
Cause I could totally overlook a poet whose a drunk, and I’d probably still use a doctor even if he was egotistical - but I wouldn’t read a poet who was just not a good artist, nor would I use a doctor that’s just not very good at medicine, and I wouldn’t follow the moral instructions of a leader (or book) which quite obviously does not exhibit a proper moral behavior.
And if you don’t know what I mean by ‘rabbis without ethics’, just check out FailedMessiah.com.